Have you ever been bullied? Have you ever bullied?
I have been a victim of bullying… yes, me. The 48 year old, mother of four, grandmother to 3 (#4 here in 3 weeks or so), and long time Girl Scout has been bullied by another adult.
A friend (I thought) of mine no less. Cyber-bullying on top of it all.
At first I tried to ignore it, then I tried to let others know that it wasn’t right, then told others this person wasn’t being nice to me. I was told to “grow up” and “get over it”, “forgive and forget”. Today was the final straw, when I was publicly attacked and reduced to uncontrollable shaking and crying. I threatened to disengage from social media, I cried, I shook, I got mad, I vented to a friend, I cried some more. I thought about how hurt I was and how no one had listened to me before. Today EVERYONE listened to me.
Then I got home and got smart. I decided I was not going to let this get me down, I was not going to stay mad, and cry and cry. I remembered what WE, the adults, have told our children to do – to reach out, to bring awareness, to stop it in it’s tracks. If I removed myself from social media I would be doing a disservice to myself – I would be unhappy. I have friends that I only interact with via social media, I have a photography page where I LOVE to share my photos, I have a Girl Scout page where I LOVE to share ideas and events where the parents can interact with their children. IF I disengaged – the bullier would WIN. I can’t allow that to happen.
While it’s not about winning – it is about ME. MY self esteem, MY happiness, MY example I set to not only my children and grandchildren but to the Girl Scouts and other youth that are in my life. If I give in, will they see this as a way to deal with bullying? Instead I am taking a stand against bullying.
I think I was treated differently because I am an adult and adults aren’t supposed to act that way. Adults listen to children and youth though, I know this, I have been a party to and seen other adults take action against bullying. Do not be afraid to SPEAK OUT!
recite with me: I WILL not be a bully; I WILL prevent bullying; I WILL continue to encourage others to be nice; I WILL be nice behind someone’s back today. Annnddddd…. as soon as one of my daughters gets here with the blue nail polish, I will post a picture of my #bluepinky!
For help if you think you are, or are being bullied, go to a trusted adult, and you can also go to Mean Stinks Bullying Stops Here tips to join the campaign against bullying. You can also visit Stop Bullying.gov
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